Did you know that 49,650,000 people have tried online dating?
Dating can be difficult, especially if you’ve never done it before. From asking a person on a date to deciding where to go on a first date. There are a lot of parts to navigate and for someone with atypical autism, it can be hard to know where to start.
For more tips on how to navigate the dating scene when you fall on the spectrum keep reading:
Think About Qualities You Are Looking For
When you’re looking to start dating it’s important to think about the quality you would like in a person. This isn’t just in the sense of looks but also in personality traits.
Is honesty important to you? Would you like someone who is more introverted than you? Decide on these things before you start your search and let them guide you to the right person.
Dating With Atypical Autism Fears
Be realistic about what things scare you about entering the dating scene. Don’t be afraid to address them.
Talking to others can help you get more comfortable with them and even help you overcome them. When you talk to others about your fears you may discover new ways to approach the dating scene as well.
Do Your Research
Before you start going on dates do your research on different social cues and situations that you may encounter in the dating scene. Read up on articles about body language so that you can pick up on these social cues during dates.
Speaking of dates, look up fun things to do in your area. It’s a good idea to have some go-to dates for when you start to get to know someone.
Consider Online Dating
When you want to start getting into the dating scene online dating can be a great place to start for those with atypical autism. Online dating websites can give you the chance to get to know someone before going on a date or meeting them in person.
Have some good questions to ask to those you may be interested in. This is a great way to ease into the dating scene and can help you avoid the pressures of face to face interactions.
Find Common Interests
Something to look for when getting to know someone you’re interested in is things you have in common. This will make dates easier as you’ll be able to do things you both enjoy. easier.
Think about the things that are important for you to have in common with a significant other. You don’t have to have everything in common but having some things can help your time together go by
Don’t Be Clingy
When you start getting to know someone it can be easy to get caught up in the exciting world of dating. But take it slow. There’s no rush in getting to know each other.
Give the other person time to process how they felt about dates and time spent together. Communication is good but a few hours away from each other can’t hurt.
Come Up With a Plan
When you start going on dates and meeting people in person it’s important to think about how you’ll leave. If you don’t feel like a date is going well or if you want to stop going on dates with a person it can be a tricky situation.
You’ll have to let the other person know politely that you want to leave the date. Practice some phrases that you can use to leave your date early.
Don’t Get Discouraged!
The dating scene can be hard to navigate even with those without atypical autism. Know that if dating doesn’t work out with one person that doesn’t mean you should give up altogether.
Rejection will happen. It’s all a part of the process. Don’t be afraid to keep trying.
More Advice for Dating with Autism
There’s a lot of advice for dating out there online. Make sure to do more research before getting out there in the dating scene. For more advice on what to expect while out on dates check out this blog post!