Did you know that most couples meet their spouses online, with 19% of brides reporting that they met their significant others through online dating and social media?
If you’re ready to take that next step and meet your special someone in person, it’s important to feel prepared.
Meeting someone offline for the first time doesn’t have to be stressful! Let’s get into what you need to know.
Meet in Public
As a general rule of thumb, it’s safe to meet anyone in a safe, public place. Make sure you arrive at the location early. If you’re driving, park in a well-lit and safe, monitored area.
Daytime is always preferred to nighttime. Try and pick a busy, neutral area like a coffee shop, restaurant, or shopping mall where plenty of people will be around.
Manage Your Expectations
Most people feel a bit nervous shifting from online to meeting someone offline for the first time. It’s okay to experience some anxiety! Dating can feel stressful!
It’s always good to enter your meeting with an open and realistic mind. You don’t want to emotionally invest in a perfect fantasy only to be met with disappointment.
Think about the Conversation
Ideally, you want the conversation to flow naturally and effortlessly. With that said, the beginning of meeting someone can always feel somewhat stiff and awkward.
Having backup questions to ask your date can always help. Keep it casual. Ask about their family, hobbies, or home. Ask about their job or their pet.
You can always reference discussion points you talked about online. When in doubt, practice the art of listening if you feel unsure about what to say next.
As it turns out, you don’t need to completely dazzle your date with a stunning outfit your first appointment. Aim for a mixture of comfort with flattery and don’t wear something you’ve never worn before (especially applies to shoes).
The best advice? Wear something that makes you feel attractive- whatever that is!
Before the date, make sure that you take care of your basic grooming and hygiene. It doesn’t hurt to spring for fresh haircut or manicure if that’ll help you feel more confident!
Know Your Money Expectations
When it comes to paying for the first date, controversial traditions are changing, and this is especially true with younger generations.
There’s still a pervasive school of thought that, in heterosexual dynamics, the man should always pay– but the woman should offer her half.
There’s another school of thought stating that whoever asks for the date is expected to pay.
Finally, some people just agree for simplicity’s sake that both parties equally split the bill.
The takeaway? Go with whatever you’re comfortable with- it’s your date, after all!
Final Thoughts on Meeting Someone Offline for the First Time
Dating can feel daunting and exciting for both parties involved.
At Special Bridge, we understand that meeting someone offline for the first time can be difficult. Having a disability can make this experience even harder. That’s why we have created an even playing field to start friendships and relationships.
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