How an Introvert Can Start Meeting People

It’s hard to pin down how many of us introverted people are truly out there. Best estimates put us at about 25-40% of the population, which is a big range. No matter the percentage, it’s safe to say that if you’re an introvert, you’re not the only one.

Being introverted means that social situations are, well, tiring. A lot of noise, even pleasant conversation, can feel overstimulating. Plus, it’s easy to feel like you aren’t being heard when you’re the quietest person in the room.

All of that to say, meeting people as an introvert isn’t the easiest thing–but it isn’t impossible. We’re here to tell you that you can have a social life even if you love your alone time.

Not sure where to get started? Read on for our helpful tips to meet new people as an introvert.

Remember That Quality Is More Important Than Quantity

When you’re scrolling through social media or watching your favorite sitcoms, it can seem like most adults have tons of strong friendships. The truth is, you don’t need a dozen or more friends to feel fulfilled. Research finds that having three to five close friendships is more than enough to keep our social meters at a healthy level.

(That said, not every friend you have needs to be a best friend! There’s nothing wrong with having acquaintances, work friends, or other pals that aren’t close companions.)

Think About the Companionship Skills You Bring to the Table

When you watch others socialize with ease, it can start to play on your self-esteem. “Can I make good friends when I don’t have that big, room-filling energy?” you might ask yourself.

It’s important to remember that introverts bring just as many wonderful companionship skills to the table. Maybe you’re a good listener or you always stick to your word. Maybe you offer a unique perspective that others are missing in their lives or you have a sense of curiosity that inspires the people around you.

Make a list of those great qualities of yours and give it a looking over when your self-esteem needs a boost.

Embrace Your Hobbies in a Group Setting

One of the best ways to bond with new people is by engaging in a shared interest. The good news is that nowadays, there are meet-ups and clubs for every hobby under the sun, from writing to hiking to gaming.

The best part about attending a meet-up or club meeting? You don’t need to worry about finding the right ice breaker to start engaging with others in the room. You’re all there because of a shared interest and you’ll learn more about each other’s qualities, values, and additional hobbies over time.

Challenge Yourself to New Activities

Meeting new people as an introvert does come with some initial discomfort. After all, you’ll have to put yourself out there in ways that perhaps you’d rather not. The good news is that you can take small steps and give different things a chance to see what sticks.

One way to do this is to challenge yourself to a new activity that you’ve always wanted to try. Sign up for a painting class or attend a lecture at your local university. This one is a little like the last one, only you’re engaging in something you’re not used to while also meeting new people.

We know that this one can seem a bit intimidating. It can help to bring a familiar face along, like a sibling or a friend you already know. However, it’s important that you still try to talk to some new people even if you’re with someone you already know how to talk to.

Shade Yourself From the Spotlight

For some introverts, walking into a room full of people can feel like stepping out into a spotlight. Are people looking at you? Are they waiting for you to do or say something?

This is a distracting feeling that can trigger feelings of anxiety and overwhelm. Try shifting your attention and putting the spotlight on someone or something else. For example, look around for someone who you’d like to talk to and focus your attention on meeting them, rather than on that feeling of being watched or judged.

Meet People Online First

Being introverted doesn’t mean that you don’t enjoy talking to people or have fantastic people skills. It often means that you feel overwhelmed and drained by social situations, especially when they’re new to you. Why not try meeting someone online first, so that you can engage in a text-based one-on-one conversation?

Special Bridge is a great online community for those of us who have mental or physical disabilities. Here, you’ll find many people who are looking for dating or friendship opportunities just like you are. Try chatting with a few people online before meeting up in person for a more comfortable and familiar experience.

Be Open to Unexpected Conversations

You never know where you’re going to meet a friend. The next time you’re at the dog park or the cafe and someone starts chatting with you, try to embrace the conversation. It could lead to something more fulfilling than you think!

Even when unexpected conversations don’t go further, they can still fill up that social meter. Having pleasant and meaningful interactions throughout the week can make us feel more connected to others in our community.

Meeting People Can Be Fun

Introverts don’t always have an easy time meeting people but it’s important to remember that meeting people can be fun. You have a ton to offer and plenty to gain from the new friends or relationships you’ll form throughout your lifetime!

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