Relationship & Romance Tips for People with Disabilities

Everyone gets sweaty palms when it comes to dating, but when adding a disability to your list of “what ifs” can makes success seem even farther from a possibility. The key to conquering the “what if” wall is to take steps to be sure you are in acceptance of who you are and put your best foot forward. From there you will follow through with your dating plan with confidence and expectation rather than avoidance and dread.

What Are You Thinking About?

Just starting out can be frustrating because you aren’t sure what to expect. You don’t know what other people are thinking, and they don’t know what you’re thinking. So to make it easier, you have to know what you are thinking when it comes to a friendship or a relationship. Once you have thought about the type of relationship you want, the next step is talking to someone about what you are thinking about.

When having conversations on the phone or on Special Bridge, it is important the person you decide to share your thoughts with, is worthy of your trust. Choose someone you admire for their wisdom, good character and kindness. Sharing your ideas is important, you are giving out information, but the next step is harder. If you trust the person you are sharing your thoughts with, you have to listen carefully to what they say. You must think about what they mean when they say it. Communication is a two way street, honesty is important, you give your best, and you often receive their best in return.

This is the same thing you will be doing when you begin a new relationship. Only, when you start to share ideas with a new person, it may be the person you want to have a relationship with. Being honest about your feelings and talking about being a disabled person takes practice. Learning about how the other person feels takes concern and patience. Some people need to know someone as a friend for a while, before they are comfortable enough to go on a date. Meeting people online is an easier way to talk and share because it’s less intimidating than when you are in the presence of the person you like, very much.

Making an Investment

If you decide you have met someone you like very much, and this person tells you that he or she also likes you, it is time to make an investment in that person. Some people make the mistake of assuming the person they like wants the same things, but people are very different. People don’t always want the same things in a relationship. All relationships have boundaries. You will have boundaries too. Making an investment in someone means you care about that person and you want him or her to feel comfortable and happy when you are near them.

The first step is, of course, finding out what makes them comfortable and what makes them uncomfortable. This takes a lot of talking, which is usually easy, because people who find out they like each other often want to talk to each other, a lot. There is a stage before dating when two people want to find out what makes them alike and what makes them different. Why do they like each other, what are their favorite things, and what do they want in the future. Some people like going for walks in the rain, some people dislike the rain, but if they both like pizza, forget about going for a walk if it’s raining, and go get pizza.

As you start talking more and more, you will want to remember the things he or she says are favorite things, like favorite colors, favorite flavors, favorite animals and favorite TV shows. The best way to start knowing what to do when you are with the person you like, is learning what they like. The best way the person you like will know what to do when you are both together, is if you talk about things you enjoy too.

Ideas About Spending Time Together

As the two of you spend time together, you will both share some ideas with each other. Often someone will want to share an activity he or she enjoys with someone they care about, to see if it is fun for them together. Most of the time it is a good idea to try an activity you have never tried before with a person you like very much. You would be surprised how many times people find they really like doing something they never thought they would like, just because they are sharing the experience with a person they really like.

This could be your first date together, but it doesn’t have to be. It could just be two people sharing an activity to see if you both like it. It doesn’t matter what the activity is, kite flying on the beach, painting a ceramic statue or listening to favorite music. It could be anything at all. Some people like to cook for others, some people love to eat, this could lead to a good relationship. Some people like reading books out loud or singing songs, others may prefer to listen or even join in, or take turns. Some people love to give gifts, flowers, a pair of gloves or favorite book. Some people love to get gifts, but don’t think about buying them. This is the part where you find out how much alike you are, and how different you are from each other.

Remember as your relationship grows, be honest with each other about what you are thinking and invest time with each other, doing what they like and what they are able to do. Be sure you are both comfortable and happy doing the things you decide to do together.


  1. cash100

    July 2, 2014 at 4:11 am

    They. Should be. A. Friday night social

    • January 23, 2015 at 11:39 pm


      • Teresa

        March 26, 2020 at 9:59 pm

        Look for. A. Boyfriend

  2. Jody Jo

    July 5, 2014 at 4:34 am

    I don’t know what to say about all of that.

  3. January 23, 2015 at 11:38 pm


    • Shetha j

      May 4, 2018 at 6:33 am

      Hello 🙂

  4. Tiffany Knox

    March 24, 2015 at 11:22 pm

    Hi my name is Tiffany im looking for a
    Boyfriend im am single im 26 years old
    I live with my mom in white bear lake mn
    I like to go to movies out for coffee or out to lunch

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    May 3, 2015 at 3:24 am

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  6. Chase A.

    August 10, 2015 at 12:13 am

    I noticed they didn’t really cover the disparity of datability between men with disabilities and women with disabilities.honestly it is far easier for a disabled woman than it is for a disabled man to find a date.disabilites in women spur men’s natural caretaker instincts it gives them a chance to show just how good a man they can be for her.Disabled men on the other hand…well lets just say we don’t inspire that same desire to rise above in most women.For that mater we don’t seem to inspire any desire …at all


      August 19, 2016 at 2:47 pm

      I am a disabled man recently being regulated to a wheelchair. I would agree with this statement SOOO MUCH. Disabled women do initiate the savior/protector complex in men where as women see this as a non alpha male wanting to hit on me and you get stuck in the friend zone ALL THE TIME, EVERY TIME.

      • Jamie

        December 30, 2016 at 12:53 am

        As a woman with a disability, I must say that I think the struggle is on both sides. I always thought that it was easier for him and because a woman has nurturing and motherly instincts and so it would be easier for her to accept the man with a disability were as men tend to be more of a provider for the family.I have been a quadriplegic for 21 years and when most men see the wheelchair, they already have preconceived thoughts of who or what I am instead of getting to take the time to have a conversation and get to know me. That’s just my thoughts… 🙂

    • Shetha j

      May 4, 2018 at 6:33 am

      On the flip side to that . I would like to add many woman would find disability in a guy more attractive . I myself have ass burgers and not only dated but marry into abusive and have children . So personally for me And I suspect many woman with disability of understanding feel same . Don’t give up . This was posted ages bet ur settled down now 🙂

  7. Andrew

    December 16, 2015 at 6:33 am

    Websites are just the new era of dating – I have dated on and off of websites. It is just a way to reach a larger audience and have many more options than we used to. I have always felt like if I do what makes me happy- during those ventures I will find the right guy. That’s how I will know we will have things in common.

  8. Jonathon

    January 27, 2017 at 11:58 am

    How on earth do you break down the wall that is created once the very visible and to a lot of people find scary scars are seen or felt? And the fact that I can not and will not drink alcohol due to inherited epilepsy let alone never being allowed to drive again!!

  9. Christine

    March 23, 2017 at 8:55 pm

    Hi i have recently started dating a guy with special needs i think I’m falling in love with him but I’m scared for our future and how his anexity issues with visiting anywhere outside of his city might hold us back. Any advice .

  10. Praveen

    February 23, 2020 at 3:28 pm

    I have never dated before. I have always been interested in dating but have never actually done it due to my social anxiety and the fact that women are generally uncomfortable around others with disabilities (either visible or invisible in my case). Hopefully one day I will date and find the right person. I am currently 36 years old am am very physically fit (work out at the gym 3-5 days a week) and look good for my age, but because of lack of social skills and confidence women generally aren’t interested in me. Hope that will change one day. I am currently also looking for employment after losing my job as a scanning technician a month ago where I worked for 7 1/2 years scanning documents through a scanner.


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